Whose Side Are You On?

“Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.”

James 4:4

I grew up with some fiercely loyal friends who would have your back at a moment’s notice. It was ingrained in me to be loyal, and I believed in the unwritten code of loyalty to the death. My friends were your friends and my enemies were your enemies.

Rebekah and I started dating and things were going quite well. We were getting along great, but I soon began to realize that other guys had their eye on her as well. They were under the guise of being her “friend”, but I saw past their guise and saw them for what they were. As far as I was concerned, they were not my friends, and I was quite leery of them. One of her friends in particular I did not care for, and eventually, things came to a head.

We got married, and her friend made a comment to Rebekah’s little sister how he could not believe Rebekah married me. I’m sure he thought that she could have done much better and married him of course. I will not debate whether or not she could have done better, but we were married and it was now a moot point. We saw him at a Coyote’s game and I confronted him about what he had said. He tried to make small talk with Rebekah, and I wanted to punch his lights out. He did not engage me and left our presence. I wanted Rebekah to take my side, but she was much more mature and told me to ignore him. She told me he was a friend, and I was her husband.

I was not happy with what she said and it led to a big fight. I told her, “my enemies, your enemies, your enemies, my enemies”. She disagreed with my logic and eventually we agreed to disagree. I think back now to that thinking, and I wish I would have applied that to my Christian life. I should have committed that thinking to my God and said “what you hate, I will hate, and what you love, I will love”. I have come to know that you cannot have one foot in the world and one foot trying to please God. If you are a friend of the world, then you are the enemy of God. God knows what is best and He desires all of us – not just the parts we want to give Him.

Are you a friend of the world today? Where does your loyalty lie? Are you trying to play both sides of the fence or have you drawn a line in the sand? John 3:15 states, “Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.” Are you in love with the world, or do you love the Father? May we come to know the joy that accompanies walking with the Father, and may we be fiercely loyal to our God.

Stay in the Fight!

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