Who Is Your Favorite?

“Now Israel loved Joseph more than all his children, because he was the son of his old age: and he made him a coat of many colours. And when his brethren saw that their father loved him more than all his brethren, they hated him, and could not speak peaceably unto him.”

Genesis 37:3-4 

I grew up with just one sibling who was six years older than me so I do not know what it is like to grow up in a large household. Even in a small household, though, one sibling can often feel like there is favoritism from the parents. I would sometimes accuse my parents that they loved my sister more than me, and she would do the same, but not as quite often as I did. I typically pulled this card when I got into trouble and added this last minute defense to help my case. I don’t think my parents have favorites, but when they were accused of such, they simply ignored my rambling, and I still had to face my consequences. 

It is funny how the apple does not fall very far from the tree as my daughter, Kate, uses the same tactics. She will often ask who our favorite is, and keep pressing until she gets an answer. She even extends this question to my parents and will ask them who their favorite grandchild is to see if she can get an edge or engage in an argument. When I hear her bring up these questions, I flashback to my earlier years when I asked the same questions, nearly verbatim. I imagine, from time to time, a person may have a favorite child, although no one would dare admit it. At times, one child is sometimes easier to deal with than the other, but it is never right for us to show partiality to one over the other as it causes a myriad of problems. 

I look here at Israel and how he loved Joseph because he had him in his old age. He favored Joseph over his other sons, and even made him a special coat that was the “bee’s knees” of the time. This favoritism brought about jealous, envy, and hate from Joseph’s brothers. We all have grown up in classrooms where teachers had favorites, and sometimes see it in our workplaces. Favoritism brings about hate as the non-favored often despise those who are favored. I always despised the teacher’s pet, even though my future wife would rank in that category. I was always the worm and never the apple. Most often, favoritism has unwanted consequences, and it not good for us to put one person above another.

Acts 10:34-35 states, “…Of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons (shows no partiality): But in every nation he that feareth him, and worketh righteousness, is accepted with him.” I am thankful that the foot of the cross is level, and God welcomes all into His kingdom. He does not love me more or less than anyone else, but rather He loves me perfectly. John 3:16 states, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” There are no secret handshakes or deeds that need to be done, but the invitation for salvation is to all who will believe. God does not favor the pastor over the church member, or the missionary over the child in Sunday School. We can do nothing to increase His love for us nor can we do anything to diminish His love for us. He loves each of us equally and perfectly, and His love extends to us all. Job 34:19 states, “Yet he is not partial to princes, nor regardeth the rich more than the poor; for they all are the work of his hands.”

Where are you today friend? Do you show favoritism to those who fit your fancy or to those who may be able to do things for you? How do you treat those who can do nothing for you? Do you look down on others due to their status in life? Do you see people as God sees them – souls that He loves and died for? Are you constantly looking for those who can help you or do you look for those you can help? May God help us to not show favoritism or partiality to others, but may we keep the great commandment and love our neighbor as ourselves.

Stay in the Fight!


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