The Perfect Day

Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.

Proverbs 22:24-25

I received a text recently that read, “I know you aren’t into late birthday wishes, but I was in the Dominican Republic, and too cheap to pay for the international plan. Hope you had a great day. Miss you guys! Happy Late Birthday!” I was excited to receive the text, but it reminded me of the person I have worked to change. I am the only person I know who was miserable at Disneyland on their birthday. My birthday, to me, always represented a day of getting spoiled and getting exactly what I wanted throughout the day. In years past, I wanted my birthday to be perfect, and I wanted everyone to recognize that this was my special day, a “Saso holiday” to be remembered and observed by everyone, including the federal government. I can guarantee you that the day was never perfect, and I always found fault with those who love me most as I was disappointed with a certain aspect or two that did not go my way.

As I read this text, I cringed inside as I knew the horrible friend, husband, brother, son and so on I was to a lot of people. My wife recently told me that my birthday was quite the stressful day for her as she sought to not disappoint me, and she worried about everything being perfect. I put this stress on her and I am embarrassed that I made others miserable for my own gain and advantage. I would ridicule those who forgot to wish me a happy birthday and those who sent me well wishes on a day that was not my birthday, as demonstrated by this text. My birthday has always been special to me, but my problem is that I wanted it to be special to everyone as well, and I showed no mercy to those who I felt slighted me. I am surprised that I even had friends back in those days, but it goes to show you that they were a better friend than I. I was not deserving of their friendship, but yet they were a great friend to me in spite of me. I felt bad for my wife who sought to meet my every whim, only to disappoint me because my expectations were insatiable.

I would have never considered myself an angry man, but I look back at these instances and realize how miserable I made those around me. I was not living a life that was pleasing to God, and it showed itself in a many ways. I was not a good friend to others, and I was not a good husband, brother, son and (fill in the blank) to others. God recently gave me another year of life, and the day was not perfect per se, but I was blessed beyond measure. I sat in the steam sauna at the gym and in the quietness of the small room, I thanked God for His goodness to me. I thanked Him for another year of life, and all that He has done for me. I thought of all His goodness over the years, and the time it would take me to thank Him for all that He has done in my life. Tears streamed down my face as gratitude filled my heart with all that God has graciously given and shown me.

I had a great birthday, and I am thankful to God for the wonderful day that it was. I was surprised at the end of the day as my parents and sister showed up to Freedom That Lasts and blessed me to encapsulate a great day. I got more birthday wishes than I ever anticipated, and I felt the love of my friends and family. I never mind getting gifts, and I received generous gifts as well. I no longer want to be known as an angry man, and I no longer want to live a life where others feel they have to apologize to me just for saying a belated happy birthday.

Are you one who is easily angered? Would you be one that might be miserable at Disneyland? Do you make life miserable for others? Are you a good friend or do people walk on eggshells around you? Do you make excuses and say, “this is just the way I am?” Do you need to change who you are? Are you willing to allow God to work in your life or will you continue in your sinful, stubborn habits? God wants to do a work in your heart if you will surrender your life to Him. Anger destroys relationships and it is displeasing to God. May our friendships be pleasing to God, and may we be a good friend and family member to those God brings in our lives.

Stay in the Fight!


  1. Nicole Mercado on 05/08/2024 at 8:32 am

    Thank God for his loving mercy and forgiveness every day that we mess up and are selfish. Thank you for this article.

    • Rosendo Mendez on 05/08/2024 at 10:29 pm

      Thank you for reading cousin.

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