“From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?”James 4:1
I am not sure if you can believe this or not, but I used to love to argue. I would try and prove I was right even though at times I knew I was wrong. I used to love to pop someone’s bubble, and I didn’t mind giving a good stir to the drama pot.
I had a friend at work who shared the same last name as mine. We got along well and turned out to be work friends. We would be happy to see each other and would give a friendly greeting. I observed him at times getting into silly beef with others, and I would shake my head in disagreement. One day he said something to me that caught my attention, and I was more than happy to engage him.
Our little spat started as a small thing but soon turned into capital-D drama. It was as if the whole thing escalated to a high noon shootout. I tried to get other people on my side, and the more I told people what was going on, the sillier my argument became. I started to realize that I was engaging in something so silly and ridiculous that it was not worth my time. I realized it was my pride that was challenged and it my pride that was keeping me from walking away. I was the one playing the fool, and I knew what I had to do.
I saw my friend at he looked at me with anger and angst. I put my hand out, and I apologized for my actions and words. A big smile came across his face and he hugged me tightly. I am not hugger, so I was not sure to do but I hugged him back. I was ready to destroy a friendship because of my own selfish perspective and desire to be right. I feel foolish looking back on all that, but I learned that it does not always pay to prove that you are right.
Sadly, we often get this way in the Christian life. We tear up one another as we seek our own way, and we seem to get offended at the simplest things. We know the root of all this is found in our lusts and the desire to be right in everything even when we are wrong. Our hearts are easily corrupted by our own ambition and pride.
Where are you today friend? Are you beefing with someone you know you should forgive? Do you need to ask that person to forgive you? Are you consumed by your own lusts to be right that you are willing to ruin a relationship? Will you be willing to be a peacemaker? Will you be willing to forgive as you have been forgiven? May we encourage and build up one another, and may we not be consumed with always being right. The world needs to see Christians who love one another and not ones who seek to destroy each other. Ephesians 4:2 states, “With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love;” May we forbear instead of fight and may we bring honor to our Lord and Savior.