“And Esau seeing that the daughters of Canaan pleased not Isaac his father; Then went Esau unto Ishmael, and took unto (in addition to) the wives which he had Mahalath the daughter of Ishmael Abraham’s son, the sister of Nebajoth, to be his wife.”Genesis 28:8-9
I would say there is never a time when it is too late to do right, but the more we continue to sow bad seed, the more bad crop we will reap. I remember the talk my dad had with me about the birds and the bees, and he referred to it as the act of marriage. It was not something to be taken lightly, and it was an act God has reserved for marriage. I was 14 and had just started to date Rebekah, so this all seemed so foreign to me at the time. He warned me of the consequences of going outside God’s will, and he also reminded me that God sees all things no matter how hard we try to hide it.
The talk he gave me would resurface in my mind over the years, and he put a healthy scare into me that never quite left. My parents realized my actions as a teenager and young adult could not be reversed, and some consequences last far beyond what we could ever imagine. As I look back now, I am grateful for the talk my dad gave me as it protected me from a lot of headache and heartache. Who you pick as a mate is one of the most important decisions you will make, and God is concerned with whom you marry. Many a life and the life of others have been ruined due to the spouse one has married. The exchange of vows traditionally say the words, “’till death do us part”. Marriage is not something you rush into, and definitely not something you easily run away from.
I married the girl of my dreams and knew in my heart this was the person God had designed for me. When we exchanged vows, I did not know the full extent of those vows, as I continue to learn, but I knew it was a lifetime commitment. I knew Rebekah was born again, and I knew she loved God. She was not perfect, but I was far from that myself. I had my parents’ blessing and more importantly, my mom’s stamp of approval. At the time, I never realized the helper Rebekah would become to me as God has used us to teach classes, help in bus ministry and in other various church ministries. It matters who you marry, and more importantly, it matters to God and it is something that should not be taken lightly.
I look at Esau and how his first two marriages displeased his parents. Esau then observed his brother, Jacob, and heard the command of his father, Isaac. Isaac had challenged Jacob to not marry a woman from the Canaanites and to pick a wife that was from his mother’s side. He wanted his son to marry a woman who believed in God and would not bring about shame but one who would bring about honor. Esau tried to right a wrong, but the damage was done and it seemed like he was seeking the approval of his parents rather than the approval of God. The fact that he married the “right” woman this time around did not negate his wrong doing and the consequences that would come from not doing right.
I think of the important decisions in my life, and how I have been guilty of trying to right a wrong by doing right…but for the wrong reasons. I was simply trying to impress others and God with my actions, but my heart was not surrendered and I had not repented of my sin. It does not say Esau repented or that he asked for forgiveness, but rather that he took the action he thought would gain him favor with his parents.
Where are you today friend? Do you seek God’s approval, or do you seek the temporary approval of man? Do you try to do good things to cover up your sin, or are you truly repentant? What does God see when he looks at your heart? May we honor our parents, but more importantly, may we honor Almighty God. There are decisions in life that you must take seriously, and all decisions should be bathed in prayer. Philippians 4:6-7 states, “Be careful (anxious) for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth (surpasses) all understanding, shall keep (guard) your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Only God’s way brings us peace, but the way of our wicked hearts will bring us to utter destruction. Will you choose to please man or will you choose to please the One who matters most?