Not My Birthday

A wise son heareth his father’s instruction: but a scorner heareth not rebuke.

Proverbs 13:1

Ever heard the saying, “feedback is a gift, but it’s not my birthday”? Growing up, my parents gave me instruction, and I can assure you that I did not always appreciate it. I was not quick to say, “thank you so much; please give me more”. There were many times when I listened because I had to, but I did not always take to heart what they were telling me. There were times when things resonated with me and I agreed with them, but these times were very far and few between. I would sometimes get angry over what they were telling me, and I know they could see it in my face. I was the very definition of a scorner and a true antagonist of a wise man.

I thought the feedback would stop once I grew up and moved out of the house, but it seems to have followed me all through my adult life. I have had countless coaching sessions, performance reviews, and informal meetings to tell me about areas that I need to improve on. If you are married, then you have a built-in person who will give you advice, sometimes unsolicited. I have not always appreciated being corrected due to my arrogance, but when I reflect on the correction, I often find validity in what I am being told. I have had bosses of all kinds – some I liked, and some who kept me up at night. As I have gotten older, I have taken feedback better than in the past, but I can’t say I always love to hear how poorly I am doing or what I could be doing better.

I have grown to accept feedback and apply the changes that are needed in my life. If you read the Bible, then you are constantly admonished on what needs to be corrected as the Bible serves as a discerner of the heart and cuts down to the root of the matter. There is no escaping the truth of God’s Word and it is God’s feedback to us. God also uses other people to give us feedback and show us our imperfect ways and enlighten us on where we need to make corrections. God gives us laws, authority figures, and even good and bad bosses in our lives. He allows feedback to be given to us in various forms, but the most pertinent feedback comes from His Word. We must remember that God’s Word gives us instruction. Will we be one who ignores or mocks those instructions or one who hears and applies?

Where are you today? How do you take feedback? Do you get angry when given instruction, or do you treat it as a gift? What would your boss say about how you receive instruction? What would your spouse say? How about your friends? Would your picture be found in the dictionary under “scorner”? What would God say about you hearing instruction? Do you read His Word? Are you a hearer only and not a doer? May God help us to implement the instruction of His word, and may we treat feedback as a gift, even though it may not be our birthday.

Stay in the Fight!


  1. Marta Moreno on 04/05/2024 at 7:06 am

    If the Bible calls it a sin, your opinion doesn’t matter.
    To God be the glory!

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