Not Me!

“And he said, Who told thee that thou wast naked? Hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat? And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat. And the Lord God said unto the woman, What is this that thou hast done? And the woman said, The serpent [deceived] me, and I did eat.”

Genesis 3:11-13

I have done many things in my life that I am not proud of, and I sometimes wish I could go back and undo them. I have come to realize there is no changing the past, but there are decisions to be made that will affect my future. There have been far too many times in my life when I failed to take responsibility for my actions and have played the blame game for the wrong decisions I made.

I once started a job with a temp-to-hire agency, and since I had done well, they decided to hire me. I met a friend at work and we were thick as thieves. We took every break and lunch together and started to grow close. We would joke with my boss and sometimes take it too far. My boss liked each of us individually, but did not care for us together. He thought we were not good for each other, and looking back, I would agree with him 100%. Unfortunately, I did not think that way at the time.

My boss had a brilliant plan to separate us and set the times each one of us could go to break and lunch. I thought he was out of his mind for making these rules and thought they were silly and dumb. I talked to my friend about it and he agreed with me, of course, and told me we should defy our boss’ orders. I thought about it for a short time and agreed with him completely. I told him how dare our boss defy our “rights” and we needed to stand up to him. My friend and I had a plan to take our break together. When my friend’s break time came, I went to the cafeteria where he was waiting for me at our table. I sat down in defiance and felt pretty proud of myself until I saw my boss round the corner and give me the look of death.

He told me to see him before the end of the day, and, while I was a little worried, I had a plan to argue whatever he would say. I met with him at the end of the day, and he had a paper that he slid over to where I was seated. The paper was a write up for insubordination. I tried to argue with him and I even told him that it was his rule and not my rule. I blamed my friend and told my boss we had made a pact of defiance as his rule was not fair. I made every excuse in the book and try to blame anybody and everybody else, but this fell on deaf ears. I refused to sign my write up but it still went in my file and counted against me. I learned that day that I was responsible for my actions and while I could try to blame others, I was the one to suffer the consequences. We can play the blame game and say, “not me”, but we are still liable and accountable for our actions.

II Corinthians 5:10 states, “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.” I think of these verses and how it will be in the end of time as we know it. I will give an account just as you will, and I can try to blame others, but I will be the one held accountable for my actions. Sometimes, we even blame God. We blame God for our situation just as I blamed my boss for the poor decision I had made. We blame Him for the people He put in our life, and we blame Him for the temptation of the sin we willfully commit. On judgement day, there will be no one to blame and there will be no sin we will be able to hide. We will not be able to rewind our life, and we will wish we did more for God and obeyed Him as we should have.

Where are you today friend? Do you blame others for your poor actions? Do you blame your life situation for your poor decisions? Do you blame God for what He has allowed in your life? Do you play the “not me” game or are you taking responsibility for your actions? Are you doing things that are pleasing to Christ or are you choosing to be a “victim?” May we look to the Author and Finisher of our faith, and may we run our life race to please and honor our God. Galatians 6:7-8 states “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.” Are you sowing good seed or bad seed? What you sow is what you will reap. May we sow to the Spirit and may we reap that which will never perish.

Stay in the Fight!


  1. Marta Moreno on 11/28/2023 at 9:12 am

    Your Sins will find you out. To God be the glory!

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