My Identity

“Paul, a servant of God, and an apostle of Jesus Christ, according to the faith of God’s elect, and the acknowledging of the truth which is after (in accordance with) godliness;“

Titus 1:1

If you’re like me, you have endured some awkward high school years when you thought you knew everything but you were really insecure about everything. You looked in the mirror at every opportunity only to discover you looked the same as you did when you glanced at the mirror the five seconds prior. The smell of Oxy Clean was prevalent in the locker area of school, and combs were often kept in back pockets to ensure every hair was in place. We sought the approval of friends, and we hoped to be noticed (in a good way) by the opposite sex. We tried to portray self-confidence and hung out with the “cool” kids to ensure our identity was secure, although we look back and realize they were some of the most insecure people.

Identity is a funny thing when you’re going through the awkward years, As we grow older, we place our identity in our kids, our spouses, our possessions, our education, or in our career. It is a common thing to be asked by a stranger what you do for a living, as it supposedly reveals your identity and success in life. I hated this question when I was in my 30’s as I was somewhat embarrassed by my occupation.

At that time, Rebekah got promoted to Corporate Board Liaison and her new job enabled her to travel with the board. The kids and I were able to tag along and visit some amazing places. We ate some of the best food and we stayed in some of the nicest hotels. I often felt blessed beyond degree, and I was grateful to God for the things I was able to experience. I was always exited to go on these trips, but I often dreaded going to dinner with the board members and their spouses as I would be asked that infamous question, “So, what do you do?”

The people who were asking me were quite successful or were married to those who were. The jobs they held or once held contained impressive titles such as CEO, CFO and even the past Vice President of the Phoenix Suns and President of the Arizona Diamondbacks. In stark contrast, I worked in retail and my job title included, “key carrier” – nowhere near the title of CEO. I was often ashamed of what I did, and I felt my identity was lesser than those who we dined with. I would cringe when I was asked what I did for living as I though that defined me, but I failed to see what my true identity was.

I am a child of the King and my identity and value is found in Jesus Christ. My job was a means God used to provide for me and my family, but it did not represent my identity or value. My marriage to Rebekah or my role as dad did not give me my identity, but my identity was given to me the moment I accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior. I was adopted into the family of God, and I became joint heir with Christ. My eternity was secured, and I became a new creation in Christ, who loves me and gave Himself for me. I understand this now more clearly and I am secure in who I am because my security is in the One, I AM (Exodus 3:14).

Are you struggling with your identity or your value? Have you come to know the One who died and gave Himself for you? Do you see yourself as Paul did? He did not talk about his achievements or qualifications, but he spoke of himself as a “servant of God”. There is no greater identity than to be the servant of The Most High. May we not be caught up with who or what we know, what we’ve accomplished, or what we do for a living, but rather find our true identity and value in Jesus Christ.

Stay in the Fight!


Child of the King (Gaither Vocal Band)

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