“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help (helper) meet (suitable) for him.”Genesis 2:18
When Rebekah and I were newly married, I was burdened to take the teens in our church to camp. I did not lead the teens or really have much interaction with them at that time, but camp was a life-changing experience for me and I knew it would be good for them too. I made the offer to my pastor, and he gave me the green light. Rebekah couldn’t get time off of work, so I called my parents to see if they could join me as I was ill-prepared to take a bunch of teenagers to youth camp by myself. They agreed to come down from Chicago, and the plans were all set.
This was the first time in our young marriage that Rebekah and I were apart. I thought it would be no big deal, but I had a hard time saying goodbye to her as we left for camp. The kids were pretty rowdy, and I started to think this was not such a good idea after all. I did not have easy access to a cell phone like we do now, and I was not able to talk to Rebekah the whole week. We typically spent every minute together outside of work time, so it was odd and lonesome without her. I missed her more and more as the week went on, and I could not wait for Saturday to come so I could see her again.
I had made it to Friday and only had to wait one more day to see my new bride. I was watching a basketball game when someone came from behind and threw their arms around me. I was not used to this type of treatment, and when I turned around, I realized it was Rebekah who had come to surprise me. I was so excited and as we embraced, all seemed right with the world again. 22 years later, we still do our best to not be apart, and I hate when we have to travel separate. I am thankful for the wife God has given me, and God knew exactly what I needed when He brought her into my life.
Rebekah is my support and help in many ways, and she even has the arduous task to edit these devotionals. I cannot imagine doing ministry without her, and I am grateful for how she completes me with her gentle touch and empathetic heart. She challenges me in the areas I need to be challenged, and she is the smooth part to my rough edges. She is my confidant, my listener, and my best friend. She puts the stop sign up when appropriate, and she pushes me when the light is green. Proverbs 18:22 states,“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.”
Are you thankful for the woman God has brought into your life? How are you treating the wife God has given you? Do you spend your time complaining about your wife or do you look for ways to be a better husband? There is no better helper suitable for you than the one you are married to. Time will soon pass by and there may be a time when your wife is no longer on this earth. Will you remember your time together fondly, or will you be filled with regret? May God help us to be loving to our wife, and may we cherish her always.