Hurt but Loved

Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil.

Ephesians 4:26-27

I was sitting in a church service, listening to a special speaker I had heard before and really liked. The last time he was at our church, we saw a revival amidst the teens in the youth group, including my own children. I was excited to hear him speak, but I did not expect how I would feel at the end of his message. He opened up with this passage, which I have heard many times, but he shed light on it as I never heard before. He spoke of how people in our life makes us mad or push us to a point where we lose our cool. I have met a lot of these people who seek to push my buttons and others who don’t even realize it, but they are like nails on a chalkboard. I am sure I am that person to someone else, and there are some who would say I push their buttons. I have learned that we cannot control how people treat us, but we are responsible for our actions towards them.

The speaker began to preach about our reaction when we get upset, and we are commanded in these verses to not sin and to not allow it to linger in our life. If we handle anger in the wrong way, we will find ourselves in sin, and we will also being giving place to the devil. In a sense, we will be giving him a foothold in our life, and he will take all that he can get. Addictions seem to breed in this environment as the devil takes hold in our life if we do not deal with anger in a godly way. As I listened, I thought to myself that I am not an angry person, and I myself have dealt with addiction. He began to go deeper than surface anger and this is where I began to struggle as my mind raced back to many years ago and then raced forward to more recent times.

He spoke of those who have hurt us in life, those who have disappointed us, and those whom we have not forgiven. Sure I have been disappointed, sure I have been hurt, but this was all water under the bridge, or so I thought. I thought of times when my expectations were not met and the hurt that it brought me. I thoughts of things that were said to me by teachers, friends, family members, and even some bosses. I thought of times when I had been hurt and it surprised me as I thought this was gone a long time ago. I tried not to dwell on that stuff, but it all came to the surface during this message. I also thought of times when I had hurt those I loved and some I did not love. I thought of those who might be feeling like I was, and they felt that way because of my selfishness.

The preacher brought it around and spoke of God’s love and His great forgiveness. He spoke of all that we have been forgiven of and how there is no one who has hurt us as much as we have hurt God, but yet He forgave us. We were encouraged to not only believe that God loves us, but to dwell on it and never forget His amazing love. Tears ran down my face with mixed feelings of God’s love and past hurts that I had not let go. He gave an invitation and I sat down in my seat and sobbed in my hands doing my best not to lose it. I was overwhelmed by the pain and brokenness I felt, and I felt a burden lifted as I cried out to God to take away the pain and for me to forgive those who had hurt me. I also asked God to help me live a life in which I would not hurt others and that I would show God’s love to others, just as He has shown His amazing love to me.

I John 4:11 states, “Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.” What are you holding onto today? Have you been hurt? Disappointed? Do you know that God loves you? Do you know that He is the greatest friend you could ever have? Do you know He will never let you down? Do you know He loves you unconditionally? The enemy loves to bring up past hurts, but God is able to bear those burdens. God is the One who can bring healing and closure. Who is it that you need to forgive today? Who is in need of you showing God’s love to? May you find God’s healing in your life as I did, and may we forgive as we have been forgiven.

Stay in the Fight!


  1. Alec on 11/21/2023 at 2:27 pm

    I’ve never needed a message so badly as this one. Thank you Saso

    • Saso Mendez on 11/26/2023 at 11:56 pm

      Love you cousin. Call or text me and let’s get together.

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