“Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.”Matthew 7:7-8
I have never been scared to ask for things, whether it was an item on my Christmas list or something else I had my eye on. I tell my kids that the answer is always no until you ask. It is hard for others to know what you want and need if you are not willing to ask. I guess I should clarify and say there was one time when I was not so willing to ask for something as I was scared of the answer. I knew there would be no going back once I put it out there, so I was apprehensive and cautious. I asked my mom for advice and she did not hesitate to tell me that I needed to be bold and lay all my cards out on the table.
Rebekah and I had reunited after several years of not speaking to each other. I certainly wanted to be in her life, but she had not written me back on the two letters that I had sent her, so I had backed off as I did not want to be classified as a stalker. I was glad we were talking after all those years, and I must say that I did have intense feelings for her. I guess I could say my feelings never went away since I was a youth, but they seemed more mature and deeper the second time around. I did not want to ruin our friendship by sharing these feelings I had, so I wrestled with it for weeks. Finally, I went to my mom and asked her for advice on how I should proceed.
I expected my mom to go the conservative route and advise me to play it cool and wait it out, but she told me something I did not expect. She told me that I should tell Rebekah exactly how I felt and not to hold back. She stated I had nothing to lose because if she was a friend, she would understand my feelings, and if she had the same feelings, I would gain what I desired. My mom’s pep talk filled me with confidence, and I put the pen to paper and wrote out my feelings for her. I nervously put the letter in the mailbox and anxiously awaited her reply. I had laid it all out for her and I was basically asking her if she felt the same way. Well, we have been married for over 23 years so you can guess what her response was. I am thankful that I stepped out and asked, and I am grateful for the gift of a wife that God has provided.
I wish I had taken this approach when it came to asking God for things. I have asked for things presuming upon my own selfish desires, but I did not often ask for the things most needful. I did not ask my Father to help me resist temptation as He taught His own disciples when they asked how they should pray. I did not ask for His will in my life, and I often went days without speaking to Him at all. I had a Father who desired for me to ask for things and here I was asking for a million dollars and other trivial things that meant nothing. I have come to know that He is a Father who desires a relationship with me, and One who wants me to ask Him for things. He is concerned with the little and big things of life, and I am never a bother or inconvenience to Him. He is available 24/7 and although He knows what I need, He desires that I still ask Him.
What is it that you need to ask your Father for? What are you talking about and asking others for that you need to ask Him for? Are you asking for your desires or are you asking for things according to His will? He knows you down to the finest detail of the hairs on your head, but He still desires that you ask Him. He knows what good things to give His children. Will you talk to your Father? Will you ask Him for your needs and concerns? Will you ask for understanding, knowledge and wisdom? He is a God who freely gives us all things and all you have to do is ask. Will you simply talk to your Father and ask Him today?