Are You Going to Ask?

“But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.”

James 1:6

Rebekah and I were dating and our relationship was headed towards marriage as things got more serious. We traveled to Chicago to spend Thanksgiving with my family, and I was excited to have her join us for the holiday. We arrived to the frigid Chicago winter exhausted, but we had great anticipation of the week to come. I knew this would solidify my intentions that I had to spend forever with her, and this was her introduction to a family holiday.

Thanksgiving was going well and we enjoyed the meal accompanied by my mom’s delicious rolls and sides. Rebekah was getting acclimated to my family and my family was enjoying her company. We had a tradition of going to some of the retail stores for Black Friday and then eating at one of our favorite breakfast spots. We were looking through the ads and marking the items we would be shopping for, when my dad pulled me to the side to speak with me. Rebekah was out of earshot when my dad asked me a very serious question. He gave me a hard stare and asked, “Are you serious about Rebekah?” I replied, “Well, yes, of course I am.” He then asked, “When are you going to propose to her?”

“Wow, talk about pressure!” I thought to myself. I told my dad I was waiting for a diamond that was in Rebekah’s family and promised to her by her grandma. I was going to use the diamond and have in set in a ring before I proposed to her. I explained the keeper of the diamond wasn’t particularly fond of me due to my own foolish doing. I was waiting for the blessing from her parents to ask for her hand and to also obtain the diamond, which seemed harder to obtain than in Romancing the Stone. My dad look at me and said, “If you want to marry her, be a man and go buy your own ring.” He was dumbfounded that I was waiting for someone else to ask my future wife to marry me. His “pep” talk encouraged me and I bought her an engagement ring that weekend.

It took me a month to propose as I waited for the perfect time to ask her. We have been married for over 20 years now, so that proposal worked out quite well. When I bought the ring, I did not question whether or not she would say yes, but I was confident that she felt as I did. When I proposed, I did not beat around the bush, but I simply asked her to marry me. I did not have a doubt in my mind, and I asked her with full confidence. I am beginning to realize that I need to approach God in much the same way — with uttermost confidence and faith. God desires to hear from His children, and He commands us to ask in faith. He does not want us to hem and haw, but He wants us to come boldly and with full confidence in Him. He does not want us to have doubts or excuses, but He wants us to be firm in our faith.

What do you need to ask of God today? Are you filled with doubt? Are you wishy-washy? Do you have full faith in a God who is able to do the impossible in your life? Do you approach His throne boldly, or do you have the attitude that God is too busy or uncaring to hear your reply? We often lack the faith to ask and we live a defeated life because we simply do not ask God in faith to do what only He can do. God wants us to ask in faith, but we still must take the action to ask. May we approach His throne boldly and may we not waver as we ask. In Matthew 19:26, Jesus said, “…With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.” Ask your Father in all things, and have the faith that He will do the impossible.

Stay in the Fight!

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