“The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers (slanderers), not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”Titus 2:3-5
I remember when I was growing up that I started to notice girls in a different way that I had before. I no longer wanted to beat them in a race or challenge them to a friendly game of four square. I noticed they were not so tomboyish and some of them even wore cheap perfume. I started to become attracted to some, and I felt weird that I was attracted to someone I used to race against. The goal was now to attract their attention in a good way. I was not the best looking kid in the class, but a lot of the girls thought I was funny and “cool.” I was no longer scared of cooties, and I attempted to do things to get them to like me.
I often made jokes which they loved, but it did not endear me to my teachers or my school principal. I was as shallow as the kiddie pool at the park, and I was simply looking for beauty and not much else. I remember going to the mall to scope out the girls, although not one was looking to scope me out. I was not looking for the girl who carried herself well or looked to be modest, but I was looking for the prettiest girl with her hair set up with a half of a can of Aqua Net. It seemed everywhere we went, whether it was church camp or even basketball games, I was looking for the girl of my dreams. I did not know she would come to me on the first day of school, but it seemed like an angel walked through my home room class on the first day of my 8th grade year.
We did not have many blonde hair girls at my school, so I immediately noticed when Rebekah walked through the door. I was tantalized by her blue eyes, and I just knew that I had to get to know her better. The get-to-know-her-better efforts included small talk, but it was not based on deeper conversation of whether or not she was saved or if she had real walk with God. I was not so interested in those things, but I was simply mesmerized by her beauty. We did not “date” until the later part of the year, but she was someone I could not get out of my mind. Our “dating” ended in 1991, but I never stopped loving her, and I never forgot about her. I wanted to marry her but I was a dumb kid, and I do not believe she saw me the same way I saw her. God brought us back together in late 1997, and I would like to say I liked her outside of her beauty, but that simply would not be true.
I fell back in love with Rebekah, and I thought she looked prettier than I had remembered and she was so easy talk to. We clicked like peanut butter and chocolate, even though we connected again during a challenging time. Rebekah was kind and loving and I did not think far enough to know that this would be the mother of my children. I knew she was a keeper, and I soon proposed to her and we were soon married. Over the years, I have seen her grow into a godly woman and a woman I greatly admire. She is a friend and mentor to many. I know that she loves me and I am privileged to say that she is my wife. I never imagined how good she would be as I was initially distracted by her beauty. I have come to love her more deeply than her blonde hair and blue eyes, and I have grown deeply in love with the God she loves and serves. I have seen how she loves our children, and I know there is nothing she would not do for them. She is constantly teaching and is not selfish with her time, and she is the woman that is described in the above passage. I thank God for my companion, and I am grateful for a godly wife. I was too foolish to look for these qualities initially, but God was merciful to me.
Where are you today ladies? Do you desire to follow God or are you too busy with a career or having “fun”? Who has been changed by your life? How would your family describe you? Are you a testimony to a lost world or do you blend in with everyone else? May you desire to have a real walk with Jesus Christ, and may you change lives for the glory of God. How about you men? Are you simply looking for a pretty woman or are you asking God for a godly wife? May we strive to live a life of godliness, and may our lives be pleasing to Him.